Through the Fog

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  • What Looked Safe

    You’re a gun without a safety—

    not loud at first,

    not obvious.

    You don’t come in blazing.

    You come in close.

    Warm.

    Careful with your aim

    until I forget

    there’s danger in your hands.

    You speak softly

    like nothing about you

    could ever hurt me.

    And that’s how it happens—

    not in a moment,

    but in the slow lowering

    of my guard.

    I stop checking for warning signs.

    Stop asking the questions

    that might’ve saved me.

    Because you feel steady.

    Because you feel real.

    Because you don’t look

    like something that breaks things.

    But you do.

    Not all at once—

    just enough

    to leave a mark.

    Just enough

    to remind me

    how quickly something

    can turn.

    There’s no click,

    no signal,

    no space

    between safe and not.

    Just the sudden realization

    that I trusted something

    that was never built

    to protect me.

    And maybe

    you didn’t mean to be dangerous.

    Maybe you just never learned

    how to carry yourself

    without causing harm.

    But that doesn’t change

    what it does to me.

    Because now

    I flinch

    at things that never hurt before.

    Now I measure closeness

    like it’s risk.

    Now I remember—

    some people

    don’t come with warnings.

    They come

    like you did—

    looking harmless

    until they’re not.

  • Bad Attitude

    You call it a bad attitude

    because confidence

    looks rude

    when it doesn’t ask permission.

    Because I stopped smiling

    through things

    that hurt me.

    Because I learned

    how to say no

    without decorating it

    for your comfort.

    You liked me better

    when I was easier—

    when I folded myself smaller,

    when I confused silence

    for peace.

    Back when I apologized

    for taking up space,

    for having needs,

    for noticing disrespect

    and pretending I didn’t.

    Now I speak plainly.

    Now I leave

    when something feels wrong.

    Now I don’t explain myself

    to people committed

    to misunderstanding me.

    And somehow

    that became attitude.

    Funny how boundaries

    sound hostile

    to those who benefited

    from your lack of them.

    Funny how self-respect

    gets renamed

    when it no longer serves

    someone else.

    So call it what you want.

    Bad attitude.

    Too much.

    Difficult.

    Cold.

    I know what it is.

    It’s the posture

    of someone

    who got tired

    of being handled carelessly.

  • Burning Bridges of My Memory

    I’ve been burning bridges

    inside my own mind—

    not the ones that lead to people,

    but the ones that lead back

    to who I was with them.

    Setting fire to moments

    I used to walk across

    like they meant something.

    Laughter goes first—

    it’s the easiest to doubt.

    Then the soft parts,

    the almosts,

    the things I held onto

    because they felt real enough

    to keep.

    I tell myself

    it’s necessary.

    That if I leave those paths standing,

    I’ll keep wandering back,

    keep looking for something

    that isn’t there anymore.

    So I light the match.

    Watch memories catch

    quicker than I expect.

    Turns out

    it doesn’t take much

    to turn a past into smoke.

    But the strange thing is—

    even when the bridge is gone,

    even when the fire settles

    and everything falls quiet—

    I still remember

    what it felt like

    to cross it.

    The shape of it.

    The way it held my weight.

    The way it led somewhere

    I thought I’d stay.

    And maybe that’s the truth

    no one tells you—

    you can burn every path

    that leads backward,

    but you can’t erase

    the fact

    that you were once there,

    standing in the middle

    of something

    you believed in.

  • If You Were Dead or Still Alive

    If you were dead

    I think I’d know how to grieve you.

    There’d be an ending—

    a line I could point to

    and say

    that’s where you stopped existing

    in my world.

    I’d cry

    in ways that made sense.

    I’d miss you

    in ways people understand.

    There would be flowers.

    Silence.

    A kind of permission

    to let you go.

    But you’re not dead.

    You’re somewhere—

    breathing,

    living a life

    that doesn’t include me.

    And that’s the part

    no one prepares you for.

    How do you mourn

    someone who still wakes up?

    Who still laughs,

    still says your name maybe—

    just not the way they used to?

    You exist

    just far enough away

    to feel unreachable,

    just close enough

    to keep hurting.

    There’s no ceremony

    for this kind of loss.

    No clear ending.

    No final goodbye.

    Just the slow, quiet ache

    of learning

    that someone can be alive

    and still be gone.

  • Get What I Deserve

    I used to think

    getting what I deserve

    meant punishment.

    Like life was keeping score

    in some quiet ledger—

    every mistake inked in permanent,

    every failure waiting

    to be returned to me

    with interest.

    So I braced for it.

    For the fall.

    For the loss.

    For the moment

    everything I touched

    would finally reflect back

    what I believed about myself.

    Not enough.

    Too much.

    Hard to hold.

    Easy to leave.

    I called that honesty.

    I called that accountability.

    But it was just

    familiar cruelty

    wearing my voice.

    Because the truth is—

    I’ve already paid

    for things I didn’t deserve.

    Stayed too long

    where I was shrinking.

    Apologized

    for taking up space.

    Carried weight

    that was never mine.

    And still,

    some part of me

    thought balance meant

    more suffering.

    Like peace

    had to be earned

    through exhaustion.

    But maybe

    getting what I deserve

    isn’t about pain at all.

    Maybe it looks like

    rest without guilt.

    Love without proving.

    Being met

    without begging to be understood.

    Maybe it’s waking up

    and not immediately

    putting myself on trial.

    Maybe it’s this—

    learning that I am not a debt

    waiting to be collected.

    And for the first time,

    when I say

    “I want what I deserve,”

    I don’t mean consequences.

    I mean

    something gentle

    finally staying.

  • I Don’t Care

    I say I don’t care

    like it’s armor—

    like if I repeat it enough

    it’ll harden into truth.

    Like it’ll quiet the part of me

    that still notices everything—

    every shift in your tone,

    every silence

    that lingers too long.

    I don’t care—

    that’s what I tell people

    when I don’t want them

    to see how much I do.

    Because caring

    has never been gentle with me.

    It digs in deep,

    makes a home in my chest,

    refuses to leave

    when it should.

    So I learned

    how to say it lightly,

    how to shrug it off

    like it’s nothing,

    like you didn’t matter

    the way you did.

    But the truth is—

    indifference

    is something I pretend to have.

    What I actually carry

    is quieter than that,

    heavier than that.

    Because if I really didn’t care—

    I wouldn’t still be here

    thinking about it

    long after

    you’re gone.

  • I’ve Been Known to Cross Lines

    I’ve been known

    to cross lines—

    not the ones painted on roads,

    but the invisible ones

    people draw around themselves

    and call safety.

    I don’t always see them

    until I’ve already stepped over,

    already said too much,

    felt too deeply,

    stayed too long

    or left too soon.

    They say I blur things—

    boundaries,

    meanings,

    the space between what’s allowed

    and what’s real.

    Maybe I do.

    Maybe I’ve spent too long

    living in places

    where lines kept moving,

    where rules changed

    depending on who was watching.

    So I learned

    to trust instinct

    over permission,

    feeling over distance,

    truth over comfort.

    And yeah—

    sometimes that costs me.

    Sometimes I lose people

    who needed things cleaner,

    clearer,

    easier to define.

    But I was never built

    for neat edges.

    I exist

    in the in-between—

    where things are messy,

    honest,

    alive.

    So if I cross a line,

    it’s not always rebellion.

    Sometimes

    it’s just me

    refusing to pretend

    I don’t feel

    what I feel.

  • Nothing But the Best

    I used to take

    whatever was given—

    half-answers,

    half-effort,

    half-love dressed up

    like it was enough.

    I told myself

    it was patience,

    that waiting meant loyalty,

    that settling

    was just another word

    for understanding.

    But I learned—

    the hard way—

    that you can give your whole heart

    to something

    that never planned

    to meet you halfway.

    And it will still take.

    So I stopped.

    Stopped explaining

    why I deserve more.

    Stopped shrinking

    to make room

    for people

    who never made space for me.

    Because love

    isn’t supposed to feel

    like convincing.

    It isn’t supposed to feel

    like earning.

    It shows up.

    It stays.

    It chooses you

    without hesitation.

    And now—

    I don’t want almost.

    I don’t want someday.

    I don’t want potential

    that never turns real.

    I want something steady.

    Something sure.

    Something that doesn’t

    leave me guessing

    where I stand.

    Nothing but the best—

    not because I’m perfect,

    but because I finally learned

    I don’t have to be

    to deserve it.

  • Love Me, Hate Me

    Love me

    like I’m easy to understand—

    like my edges don’t cut,

    like my silence doesn’t mean anything

    you’d have to sit with.

    Hate me

    when I don’t fit the version

    you built in your head—

    when I don’t stay soft,

    don’t stay still,

    don’t stay yours.

    Love me

    in the moments I’m light—

    when I laugh,

    when I lean in,

    when I feel like something

    you can hold without effort.

    Hate me

    when I pull away,

    when I ask questions

    you don’t want to answer,

    when I stop pretending

    I don’t see everything.

    Because I am both—

    the part you reach for

    and the part you resist.

    I am the warmth

    and the warning.

    The comfort

    and the confrontation.

    So go ahead—

    love me,

    hate me—

    just don’t expect me

    to be only one

    so you can feel safe.

    I was never meant

    to be easy.

  • Call My Bluff

    Go ahead—

    call my bluff.

    Say it out loud,

    what you think I’m hiding

    behind all this calm.

    You see the way I don’t flinch,

    the way I keep my voice steady,

    like I’ve got nothing to lose

    and even less to prove.

    But you don’t see

    what it takes

    to make it look that easy.

    You don’t see

    the words I swallow,

    the reactions I bury,

    the truth I keep folded

    just beneath the surface

    in case it gets too real.

    So go on—

    push a little harder.

    Look a little closer.

    Because if you’re expecting

    a clean reveal,

    some dramatic unraveling

    that proves you right—

    you’ll be disappointed.

    I don’t break like that.

    I unravel quietly,

    in places no one’s watching.

    I fall apart

    where it doesn’t echo.

    And by the time

    anyone thinks

    to call my bluff—

    there’s nothing left

    to expose

    but the silence

    I learned

    to survive in.