Through the Fog

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  • The Bonds That Last

    Carrying a strong bond with the people I grew up with is one of the great things in my life—but sometimes it feels like a double-edged blade. They knew me before the chaos, before the bottles, before the nights I couldn’t crawl out of. They remember a version of me I can barely picture anymore. And standing beside them, I feel the weight of who I’ve lost.

    There’s something both comforting and painful about people who’ve seen you from the beginning. They carry memories of me laughing without effort, dreaming without limits. When they look at me now, I wonder if they notice the cracks, or if they pretend not to. I can’t hide from them completely—they know too much. But I also can’t always let them all the way in, because the shame clings too tightly.

    Being with them is like touching the surface of another life, one I can’t fully step back into. The laughter still comes, but it feels borrowed. The warmth is there, but it flickers. These bonds keep me tethered, yet sometimes they also remind me how far I’ve drifted from the shore we all started on together.

    And maybe that’s why I cling to them so hard—because even when I feel like a ghost of myself, they’re proof that I was once alive. They are the mirror that shows me not just who I am, but who I used to be. And some days, that’s harder to face than the loneliness itself.

  • Fear of Abandonment

    Some days I feel like my entire life has been one long rehearsal for people leaving me. It’s a script I know by heart—the waiting, the silence, the glance that lingers too long, the tone that shifts, the distance that grows. I see it before it even happens, and my chest tightens as though I’m already alone.

    The fear of abandonment is not just fear—it’s a shadow that sits inside me, whispering reminders of every goodbye I never asked for, every rejection that cut too deep. It tells me I am replaceable. Forgettable. That if I don’t hold on tight enough, people will vanish like smoke, and I’ll be left clutching the air where they used to be.

    I crave closeness but it terrifies me at the same time. I want to be seen, but I’m afraid of what happens once I am. I want to trust, but trust feels like handing someone the keys to burn me down. So I hover in this space between reaching out and pulling away, torn between the desperate need to be chosen and the unbearable fear that I never will be.

    When someone leaves—even if it’s not forever—it feels like proof that the voice inside was right. Proof that I am not worth staying for. It doesn’t matter if it’s just a missed call, or someone needing space—it all feels like abandonment to me. And in those moments, I can’t separate the present from the past. I’m back in every empty room, every unanswered plea, every door that closed too soon.

    Maybe this fear will always follow me. Maybe it’s stitched into who I am. But part of me wonders if it’s possible to learn how to carry it differently—to not let it consume me every time the threat of distance appears. For now, I just write. Because writing doesn’t leave me.

  • The Love of a Brother

    The love of a brother is not the kind of love you see in movies. It isn’t polished, it isn’t neat. It doesn’t arrive wrapped in perfect words or grand gestures. Most of the time, it’s silent — a look, a presence, a weight beside you when you’re too tired to stand. It’s the kind of love that doesn’t ask for credit and doesn’t always get noticed until everything else falls apart.

    Growing up, I was my brother’s shadow. He was my first friend, my first rival, my first protector. We learned how to survive our childhood together — how to dodge the storms, how to laugh at the chaos, how to find scraps of joy where none should exist. There were days we fought like enemies, but there was an unspoken truth beneath every punch, every insult: no matter how bad it got, we were still on the same side.

    That’s what makes the love of a brother different. It isn’t built on words; it’s built on shared scars. He knew my secrets before I even had the language to tell them. He saw the parts of me no one else did — the soft parts, the angry parts, the broken parts. And he never turned away.

    As we got older, life pulled us in different directions. Distance grew, mistakes piled up, and the versions of ourselves we became didn’t always fit back into the memories we had. But even then, he didn’t let go. He’s been there through my darkest hours — not with speeches or solutions, but with a kind of silent, steady loyalty that makes me ache.

    There were times when I wanted to disappear completely, when I felt like everything I touched was ruined. But my brother’s love didn’t vanish. It waited. It endured the silence. It endured my anger. It endured the nights I didn’t answer his calls. And when I finally looked up, he was still there.

    The love of a brother isn’t perfect. It can be clumsy. It can be rough. It can even be painful at times — because he remembers who I used to be, and sometimes I can’t stand the reflection of that in his eyes. But it’s also the most honest love I’ve known. It survives absence. It survives mistakes. It survives the version of me that even I don’t want to keep.

    And in a life where so much has slipped through my hands, that love is proof that not everything has to be lost. That even in the fog, even in the wreckage, there are bonds strong enough to hold me together when I can’t hold myself.

  • Learning to Breathe in the Storm

    I thought the storm had already swallowed me whole. I thought I’d become its wind, its rain, its noise. But somewhere inside the noise there’s still a heartbeat, faint but there. It’s mine.

    The rain hasn’t stopped, but I’m still breathing. My hands are still here. My body is still here. For all the weight pressing down on me, some part of me keeps moving. It isn’t brave. It isn’t heroic. It’s just human — a quiet, stubborn instinct to stay alive even when everything feels pointless.

    People tell me storms pass. I don’t know if that’s true. Maybe some storms never leave; maybe they become part of you. But even inside them, there are moments — a break in the clouds, a single breath that doesn’t hurt, a voice on the other end of the phone. Tiny things, but enough to prove that the storm isn’t the only thing that exists.

    I don’t have a map. I don’t have a plan. But right now, in this moment, I’m still here. And that has to mean something. If the storm is part of me, then so is the heartbeat, so is the small voice saying not yet.

    I’m not out of the storm. I don’t know if I ever will be. But for now I’m learning how to breathe inside it. And maybe that’s the first step toward finding a way through.

  • If You Loved Me, Why’d You Leave Me

    Dear you,

    If you loved me, why’d you leave me?

    I know it isn’t fair to ask that of someone who’s gone, but the question sits in my chest like a stone. You didn’t walk out, you didn’t turn your back, you died — but all my heart can feel is that you left. And I’m still here, reaching into empty air.

    I keep replaying our last moments, the sound of your voice, the way you looked at me. I tell myself you didn’t choose this, that death came like a thief and took you without asking. But some nights, in the dark, the anger rises anyway. You loved me. You knew I still needed you. So why am I here alone?

    Everything you touched still hums with your absence. The places we went feel hollow. The air feels heavier. People tell me time will soften it, that grief fades, that love doesn’t end just because someone dies. But they don’t see me lying awake at night, whispering your name into the dark, asking the same question over and over: if you loved me, why’d you leave me?

    Maybe you didn’t have a choice. Maybe your leaving wasn’t a decision but a final surrender your body made without your permission. Maybe love can’t hold someone here when the weight gets too heavy. I tell myself that, and some days it helps. Other days it doesn’t.

    I wish you could see me now. I wish you could tell me what to do with all the pieces you left behind. I wish you could tell me how to live without you. But you can’t. So I’m left with this letter, and the silence after it.

    I still love you. I still feel you. And even though you left, I’m still here.

    Always,

    Me

  • Burning Bridges

    I’ve burned so many bridges in my life that sometimes I can still smell the smoke. Some were set on fire in anger, some in fear, some in the quiet resignation of knowing I couldn’t stay. I told myself it was survival. I told myself it was the only way forward. But the truth is, even survival leaves scars, and sometimes the flames don’t just destroy the bridge — they leave you stranded on an island of your own making.

    When you burn a bridge, people think it’s clean. Dramatic. Final. But it’s never that neat. It’s ashes in your throat. It’s watching the glow fade and realizing you’ve cut yourself off from something you loved. It’s feeling the heat on your back long after you’ve walked away.

    I burned bridges with people who tried to save me, with people who loved me, with people who simply saw me too clearly. I burned them because staying meant being seen, and being seen meant being vulnerable, and I wasn’t ready for that. Sometimes I tell myself I had no choice. Sometimes I know that’s a lie.

    The problem with burning bridges is that you start to believe you’re safer alone. You convince yourself you don’t need a way back. But there are nights when the silence is loud and the smoke settles and you realize you’ve built a prison out of your own escape routes.

    I keep saying I want to change. I keep saying I want connection, healing, love. But the truth is, every time someone reaches out, my first instinct is still to reach for the match.

    Burning bridges isn’t freedom. It’s a habit. It’s a sickness. It’s a slow kind of self-destruction dressed up as self-preservation. And one day, if I don’t stop, there won’t be any bridges left to cross.

  • Depression Is Like Drowning

    Depression is like drowning, except you can still breathe. My chest rises and falls, my lungs fill with air, but inside everything feels heavy, waterlogged, sinking. People see me standing, walking, talking. They see me smile. They think I’m fine because I’m not flailing, not gasping for air. They don’t realize drowning doesn’t always look like chaos—it can be quiet. It can be invisible.

    It’s not the violent splashing kind, the kind that makes people rush to the rescue. It’s the silent slipping under, inch by inch. Every day, my head sinks a little lower beneath the surface, and the world grows muffled. Sounds dull. Colors fade. Even my own thoughts feel blurred, like they’re trapped underwater with me.

    I want to scream, but the sound dies before it leaves my throat. I want to reach out, but my arms are too heavy. And so I smile, nod, laugh when I’m supposed to. I carry on. Because if I let the mask slip, if I let people see the water rising around me, I’m not sure they’d understand. I’m not sure they’d believe me.

    What no one tells you about drowning is how exhausting it is. Every second is survival—treading water, pretending it’s effortless, hiding the fatigue. My arms ache. My chest burns. My mind whispers that it would be easier to stop fighting, to just let myself sink. And the truth is, sometimes that thought feels like relief.

    That’s the cruelty of it. Depression doesn’t take away my breath—it lets me breathe, but makes the air feel useless. It doesn’t stop my heart—it just strips the meaning out of every beat. I’m alive, but it doesn’t feel like living. It feels like waiting. Waiting for someone to notice. Waiting for the current to change. Waiting for the day when I either finally reach the shore or stop fighting altogether.

    And some nights, I can feel it—my body getting heavier, the pull of the water stronger, my will to fight fading. I don’t just think about sinking anymore. I start to wonder what it would feel like to stop treading, to let the silence take me under completely.

    That’s the darkest truth of drowning in depression: you don’t always go under screaming. Sometimes you just… go under.

  • Just Give Me Peace

    I don’t ask for happiness anymore. Happiness feels like a myth, a story people tell themselves so they can keep moving. I don’t ask for love, either — love is fragile, it breaks too easily, and I am too sharp, too heavy, too much for it to survive in my hands.

    All I want is peace.

    Not the kind people romanticize, with sunsets and calm oceans. I mean silence. Stillness. An end to the noise inside my head that never shuts off. The relentless thoughts that claw and whisper, the memories that bleed through the cracks, the storms that rise without warning and tear me apart from the inside out.

    I don’t need light. I don’t need joy. I don’t even need tomorrow.

    Just give me peace.

    Because I am tired. Tired of carrying the weight of a body that refuses to rest. Tired of dragging myself through days that feel more like punishment than life. Tired of holding on when I don’t even know what I’m holding on for.

    I imagine peace as a release. A surrender. Not victory, not defeat — just quiet. No more questions. No more wounds reopening. No more storms.

    And maybe that’s the cruelest part: the world tells me peace is found by fighting harder, healing more, pushing through. But what if peace doesn’t come from effort at all? What if peace is only possible when there is nothing left to fight?

    All I know is this: I don’t crave anything except the absence of this endless war inside me.

    Just give me peace.

  • What is Wrong With Me?

    What is wrong with me? Why am I addicted to this miserable feeling?

    I don’t even know when the line blurred, when pain stopped being something to run from and started becoming something I crave. It’s like I’ve carved out a home inside of misery, built walls around it, and now I don’t know how to live without it. And in the back of my mind, the question gnaws at me: is it just the mental illness?

    People think addiction is about chasing pleasure, chasing a high, chasing escape. But for me, it’s about clinging to what’s familiar. Misery is predictable. Pain is reliable. Happiness feels like a stranger I can’t trust—it slips away as quickly as it comes. Misery stays. And maybe that’s the illness too—this twisted need to settle for what hurts, to feel safest inside the suffering.

    Sometimes I wonder if my brain was wired wrong from the start. If the illness isn’t just something I have, but something I am. Is that why I drink? Is that why I hold tight to the wreckage instead of crawling out? Maybe it isn’t weakness. Maybe it’s just the illness feeding itself, keeping me trapped.

    Because the truth is, it’s not just the bottle I’m addicted to—it’s the aftermath. The heaviness, the regret, the cycle of self-destruction. I hate it, yet I chase it. Again and again, like it’s the only thing that belongs to me. And every time, I hear the echo: this is the illness, this is the illness.

    So what is wrong with me? Maybe nothing. Maybe it’s all just the way the illness wraps itself around my soul, convincing me that misery is home. Or maybe everything. Maybe I’ve become so tangled in the darkness that even when the door is open, I can’t step out.

    And the cruelest truth? A part of me doesn’t even want to.

  • When the Anchor Breaks

    My grandmother was more than family. She was a presence, a force that shaped the person I became. She had a way of anchoring me when the rest of the world felt like it was pulling me apart. She didn’t speak in grand lessons, but in small truths — truths I didn’t always listen to at the time, but that haunt me now.

    There was a steadiness in her, the kind of steadiness I never managed to carry in myself. When I close my eyes, I can still see her hands — worn, tired, but sure. They could comfort, they could scold, they could hold on when everything else slipped away.

    And now, she’s gone.

    The absence is a hollow I can’t seem to fill. People say memories should comfort you, but sometimes they feel like salt in a wound. I don’t want echoes. I want her voice. I don’t want shadows. I want her sitting across from me, reminding me that I am not as lost as I think I am.

    Grief isn’t soft. It’s not gentle. It claws at me in the quiet hours, in the moments when I think I’m fine, only to drag me back under. I tell myself she would want me to keep going, but the truth is, some days I don’t know how.

    She was the light I didn’t deserve, and now I walk in the dark without her.

    And the cruelest part?

    The world keeps spinning, while mine stopped the day she left.